Being in-love is pleasurable. The happiness, the joy, the excitement, and the anticipation. You know it, but it can’t be explained in words. You are willing to give willingly without the assurance of receiving something in return.

Because love involve risks. I even believe that it is a pre-requisite of it.

As Charlie Day says:

“You cannot succeed without the risk of failure. You cannot have voice without the risk of criticism, and you cannot love without the risk of loss. You must go out and you must take this risks.”

And yes, there will be risks: of loss, of pain and brokenness. Will you still be willing to take on those?

I love how C.S. Lewis puts it:

“Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal.”

True love involves real choice. And know this, that even the creator of all, is willing to take on the risks for true love.

He took the risk of love when He gave Adam the free will. And He still gave it anyway until today, the risk of being rejected by us every single day.

But God loved anyway.

“Because love is beautiful, and it is worth taking the risk.”

choosing the high road

Choosing The High Road

I believe that in life, God is control on what we go through, but we have this freedom to choose how we goes through it. According to John Maxwell, there are three roads to travel: The low road, where we treat others worse than they treat us; the middle road, where we treat others the same as they treat us; and the high road, where we treat others better than they treat us.

Let me take a bible verse for this thought. It is said in Philippians 4:8 (MSG): Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious – the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.

The best is the high road, the worst is the low road. Filling your mind of the beautiful – the high road, not the ugly – the low road. Meditating on the things to praise – the high road, not things to curse – the low road.

This is why I started this blog site. To share the best, the beautiful and the things to praise to those people who wants to travel the high road with me.

Let me know your thoughts on this.



Mastery of something is not easy. It will take hundreds, if not, thousands of hours to attain. As they say: “talent is overrated”, because it requires more than talent to attain it.

Here are the 3 points I believe necessary to attain it.

  1. Principle

The first step is learning the principle or theories behind the field to master. Whether it be sports, corporate or life skills; the principle of it is vital. There you can understand more what to focus on and what to neglect, to attain mastery in shorter period of time.

2. Practical skills

The second thing you need to learn on are the practical pointers, actions or skills you need to focus on developing. This is vital as it is mostly the habit you need to develop to attain mastery.

For example in running, before you practice long hours, it is vital that you know the correct running form. Without this, you can injure yourself on the training. Learning correct form will also shorten the span of your training by a lot. Another example is in communication skills, developing the right tone of your voice as practical skills would make a lot of impact in your overall communication skills.

Whatever your goals are, practical skills needs to be developed continuously while attaining mastery.

3. Practice

The final but maybe the hardest one would be practice. This is where successful ansd mediocre people differs. Those who are willing to put in hundreds to thousands of hours of practice are those who achieved mastery, because talent alone is never enough.

With this, we can see that there is a process the hours of practice undergone. As shown below:

3.1 Trial
3.2 Failure, then learn from it
3.3 Succeed
3.4 Repeat the process (Practice)
3.5 Gain confidence as you repeat procedure and practice doing it
3.6 Form the habit, as you do it repeatedly you form the habit of it. Some call it muscle memory.
3.7 Mastery

With this, I hope we can attain mastery in one field or another.


The fall

Regret, guilt, emptiness.. Those feeling you’re dwelt on after the fall. Being immersed into that feeling that you hate yourself for falling again.

Other call it relapse, you can call it anything than good.

You just feel empty, waiting for the feeling to be gone. “It is feasting that becomes self-isolated, avoiding of God and man and self, numbed, dazed, deadened, desensitized.” Says Paul Maxwell of

This is the effect of that single sin you just removed from your life, only to fail once again. It’s hard. You just want it to begone in your life and have a fresh start.

With this, what did Adam and Eve felt after “the fall”.


Grow through Trials

In a difficult situation?

Don’t just go through it, I pray that you would GROW through it.
That you would grow on your emotional intelligence, your leadership, your character, your discernment, your faith, your closeness to God, and so on. You’re gonna learn a lot here. Don’t ever waste this, this is an opportunity.

As John Maxwell says: “Experience isn’t the best teacher, evaluated experience is.”

And the bible tells:
Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.
James 1:2‭-‬4 NLT


An Adventure To Live


It’s the first time I jumped a 12 meters high cliff.
Excited by the thrill and the experience awaits.
A friend takes the frontlines and jumped!
Now it’s my turn, there’s no turning back.
I’ll do it in 3-2-1. Jump!

“After the first jump you have to do it again, partly because you can’t believe you did it and partly because the fear has given way to the thrill of such FREEDOM.

I want to live my whole life like that. I want to love with much more abandon and stop waiting for others to love me first. I want to hurl myself into a creative work worthy of God. I want to charge fields at Banockburn, follow Peter as he followed Christ out onto the sea, pray from my heart’s true desire.

Life is not a problem to be solved; it is an adventure to be lived. That’s the nature of it and has been since the beginning when God set the dangerous stage for this high-stakes drama and called the whole wild enterprise good. He rigged the world in such a way that it only works when we embrace risk as the theme of our lives, which is to say, only when we live by faith. A man just won’t be happy until he’s got adventure in his work, in his love and in his spiritual life.”

– John Eldredge

What its like to be trully living


I have my desires in life.

I believe that we all have.

Even when we were still a child, and growing up, we desires something; it may be as small as a toy or big as a profession. Though it changes in time, while we open our minds to greater wisdom and purposes in life, we have it.

And its a good thing that we have those. That means that we are still pursuing, asking and living for something.

But I’ve learned that not all desires are good, some may place you in your real purpose here, but some may not be healthy or may even destroy you.

Let me share to you some guidelines to ponder on your desires.

     1. Ask

You got to ask of it.

Ask of it on yourself… If you have your desires but you don’t ask yourself to work hard for it, to have that motivation to go for it, with what you have, with the potential that was given you, it may come to waste. It may only be a dream for you, and may not come to fruition.

Ask of it on God… It is said in the book of James:

“You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God.”

James 4:2

     2. Check your motives

Why you do something in your life has a great impact on how you do it and what do you do about it. You got to know the root of your motives. What was the heart behind it. And if you go deeper on your motives, you’ll have wider understanding on yourself and it may direct you to your real purpose.

“When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.”

James 4:2

Once you have realized that your motives are right, you got to work on it. You got to:

   3. Get all the knowledge as you can

It will requires you to take action for you to go to a place you want to go. And you must realize that everything starts with the mind, with the belief that you have. So you need to get all the knowledge as possible that you can to go to that place where you wanted to go. It will open you up to greater opportunities and you’ll be amazed how powerful our mind is.

Jim Kwik says: “If knowledge is power, then learning is a super power.”

What a great mindset that is!

“Desires without knowledge is not good- how much more will hasty feet miss the way!”

Proverbs 19:2

What its like to be trully living

Trust the Creator

I went to a place in Bali, Indonesia where wood carving is made. There, a guy explained to me the process it undergoes from a small trunk of the tree into an art.

He explained that it takes about a month for this one to be done. Patiently and diligently working on it one day at a time.

He then goes and said: “you should have your heart on it to be able to do it beautifully, even if it takes you a very long time but your heart is not on it you can only do an average one.

There I realized this: if you want a change in your life, if you want your life to get better, to be better, you have to undergo a process. And it may not be overnight. It requires time, patience and diligence.

You should trust the process, trust God, your creator, your sculptor. He is patiently and diligently working on you. And it will be worthwhile.

And one more, it takes heart right? Know this, that God has His heart on you.

He so loved you that He gave His only Son to die on the cross for you.

To die on the cross for you. How can you not trust your future to the God who is willing to gave his only Son for you?

What its like to be trully living


We fall short, not only once, or twice, with determination not to fall again unto your weaknesses. And we fall again. Then we develop the composure to stand again. And then, again, we fall.

Sometimes thinking that we are back… to… square one.

But there is something that will hit you along the way. That weakness, that thing you are fighting along, for a long time already fist to fist, can only be fought when you acknowledged that you are powerless above it. And discover a word so precious that we ought to have through realization that we are in need of it.

That is “grace”.

No, you are not back to square one, you are on your way on acknowledging that you are in need of grace more than your own strength. And the moment you rely on that grace, and let God move and change you from the inside, there you can see the change in your life on the outside.

But change is not easy, the process can’t be understate, but it will be worth it.

The bible says in 2 Corinthians 12:9 :

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

When you found it, stay there, under the grace of God. And let us let the power of Christ rest upon us.


Repentance, not proper behavior or even holiness, is the doorway to grace. And the opposite of sin is grace, not virtue.

–  Philip Yancey




Most of us, if not, all, seeks perfection in life. We seek perfection in our day, in our career, relationships; we hated conflicts, we hated imperfections, we hated facing hard times. We hated the process of progress, this things that are necessary in life. And as you grow older, as you grow more successful, as you take more responsibilities, you can see that its not easy and maybe it will never be.

Well, who says life will be easy? There are trials, pruning and character development necessary to progress.

Here I am now in my age, I’m beginning to see how life can’t be taken lightly. How every decisions you take has its significance, tolls and repercussions. There will be things you can’t get back again, choices you can’t take again and moments you can only look back.

But the good thing is this: As long as we are growing, as long as we are continually learning and committed to be better we know that we will progress.

I agree on how John C. Maxwell puts it, he says: “The only thing that determines that it’s going to be better is that if we are growing.”

And for me, progress or growth should be our goal rather than perfection.


Gratitude and Appreciation

The value of something depends on the one looking at it.

To prove my case lets say two people are looking at one beautiful scenery. The one looks at it finding what the scenery lacks, the other one appreciates the beauty of it. They saw the same thing but reacted differently.

The saying must be true, it says: What you appreciate, appreciates; what you don’t, depreciates.

So let’s look at things with the lens of gratefulness.

“give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”

1 Thessalonians 5:18 ESV