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Don’t leave crumbs

Don’t leave crumbs. Heard it from Matthew McConaughey’s speech.

Crumbs are those things we do, that will get back on us negatively. Those decision that will not pay us back in a good way. A debt not payed on time, having an affair with other person or being drunk the night even though you have commitment the early next morning. These are crumbs. Things we can avoid but we did not.

Just this week at work we conduct a regular preventive maintenance on one of our machines, which involves removing wastes that accumulates over the time. These wastes even though so minimal and does not harm the equipment on their own have been the main reason of previous equipment breakdown and emergency repairs. These minimal wastes when accumulated destroys. These are crumbs.

The same thing in life. These crumbs that may look very minimal could result in things in life we does not want to have. Failure of health, relationships, name it.

Be aware.

Please don’t leave crumbs.


Being in-love is pleasurable. The happiness, the joy, the excitement, and the anticipation. You know it, but it can’t be explained in words. You are willing to give willingly without the assurance of receiving something in return.

Because love involve risks. I even believe that it is a pre-requisite of it.

As Charlie Day says:

“You cannot succeed without the risk of failure. You cannot have voice without the risk of criticism, and you cannot love without the risk of loss. You must go out and you must take this risks.”

And yes, there will be risks: of loss, of pain and brokenness. Will you still be willing to take on those?

I love how C.S. Lewis puts it:

“Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal.”

True love involves real choice. And know this, that even the creator of all, is willing to take on the risks for true love.

He took the risk of love when He gave Adam the free will. And He still gave it anyway until today, the risk of being rejected by us every single day.

But God loved anyway.

“Because love is beautiful, and it is worth taking the risk.”

choosing the high road

Choosing The High Road

I believe that in life, God is control on what we go through, but we have this freedom to choose how we goes through it. According to John Maxwell, there are three roads to travel: The low road, where we treat others worse than they treat us; the middle road, where we treat others the same as they treat us; and the high road, where we treat others better than they treat us.

Let me take a bible verse for this thought. It is said in Philippians 4:8 (MSG): Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious – the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.

The best is the high road, the worst is the low road. Filling your mind of the beautiful – the high road, not the ugly – the low road. Meditating on the things to praise – the high road, not things to curse – the low road.

This is why I started this blog site. To share the best, the beautiful and the things to praise to those people who wants to travel the high road with me.

Let me know your thoughts on this.



There is something different in life having the clarity of what you are here for. It changes your attitude on things, your perspective, your intention, even your energy level. Having clarity in life may turn your life around, for the better for sure.

I know someone who does things without life, this person is like sleep walking in life. But when he hears one recording, “The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale” he becomes like a different person the next day. He became purposeful, intentional in what he does, and have more energy and enthusiasm. This what clarity does to people. It changes them from the inside, that will in most of the time manifest on the outside.

How about you, do you have the clarity for living?



Picture an egg just sitting there. No one pays it much attention until, one day, the egg cracks open and out jumps a chicken! All the major magazines and newspapers jump on the event, writing features stories – “The Transformation of Egg to Chicken!” “The Remarkable Revolution of the Egg!” “Stunning Turnaround at Egg!” – as if the egg had undergone some overnight metamorphosis, radically altering itself into a chicken.

But what does it look like from the chicken’s point of view? It’s a completely different story. While the world ignored this dormant-looking egg, the chicken was evolving, growing, developing, incubating. From the chicken’s point of view, cracking the egg is simply one more step in a long chain of steps leading up to that moment – a big step, to be sure, but hardly the radical, single-step transformation it looks like to those watching from outside the egg.

Grood to Great by Jim Collins

I think the same thing with our growth in our knowledge and relationship with God. It comes from daily devotion, reading His Word and hearing from Him, praying. Communing with other believers, attending worships services, hearing from Him through Godly people.

As the Word of God says in Romans 12:2:
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

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Why is it that sometimes you feel useless, or unfulfilled. You may be in your comfort, have enough to enjoy your days, on vacation or anything but still doesn’t feel fulfilled. Where does fulfillment really comes from?

I love how Victor Frankl cites Nietzsche’s in his book Man’s Search for Meaning:

Woe to him who saw no more sense in his life, no aim, no purpose, and therefore no point in carrying on. He was soon lost. The typical reply with which such a man rejected all encouraging arguments was, “I have nothing to expect from life any more.” What sort of answer can one give to that?

What was really needed was a fundamental change in our attitude toward life. We had to learn ourselves and, furthermore, we had to teach the despairing men, that it did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life — daily and hourly. Our answer must consist, not in talk and meditation, but in right action and in right conduct. Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual.

Maybe, we only can find that purpose by taking on and embracing the responsibilities given to us by God for us to bear.

And there we can only find fulfillment.

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The Journey is the Destination

The journey is the destination.

Sounds weird right?

But thinking about it, what is really more important? The destination or the journey itself? Where did you really experience the fulfillment of a goal? of a dream? Is it when you arrived at it, or along the course of pursuit?

Let’s say for example, hiking a mountain. Which is more memorable. Is it the summit; or the people you meet along the road to the summit, the views, the sweat, the fresh air, the laughs along the way.

I think you can answer it for yourself.

But for me, you can arrive the destination, but I am certain that it is incomplete without embracing what the journey will give you. Let’s enjoy both!



Mastery of something is not easy. It will take hundreds, if not, thousands of hours to attain. As they say: “talent is overrated”, because it requires more than talent to attain it.

Here are the 3 points I believe necessary to attain it.

  1. Principle

The first step is learning the principle or theories behind the field to master. Whether it be sports, corporate or life skills; the principle of it is vital. There you can understand more what to focus on and what to neglect, to attain mastery in shorter period of time.

2. Practical skills

The second thing you need to learn on are the practical pointers, actions or skills you need to focus on developing. This is vital as it is mostly the habit you need to develop to attain mastery.

For example in running, before you practice long hours, it is vital that you know the correct running form. Without this, you can injure yourself on the training. Learning correct form will also shorten the span of your training by a lot. Another example is in communication skills, developing the right tone of your voice as practical skills would make a lot of impact in your overall communication skills.

Whatever your goals are, practical skills needs to be developed continuously while attaining mastery.

3. Practice

The final but maybe the hardest one would be practice. This is where successful ansd mediocre people differs. Those who are willing to put in hundreds to thousands of hours of practice are those who achieved mastery, because talent alone is never enough.

With this, we can see that there is a process the hours of practice undergone. As shown below:

3.1 Trial
3.2 Failure, then learn from it
3.3 Succeed
3.4 Repeat the process (Practice)
3.5 Gain confidence as you repeat procedure and practice doing it
3.6 Form the habit, as you do it repeatedly you form the habit of it. Some call it muscle memory.
3.7 Mastery

With this, I hope we can attain mastery in one field or another.


The fall

Regret, guilt, emptiness.. Those feeling you’re dwelt on after the fall. Being immersed into that feeling that you hate yourself for falling again.

Other call it relapse, you can call it anything than good.

You just feel empty, waiting for the feeling to be gone. “It is feasting that becomes self-isolated, avoiding of God and man and self, numbed, dazed, deadened, desensitized.” Says Paul Maxwell of

This is the effect of that single sin you just removed from your life, only to fail once again. It’s hard. You just want it to begone in your life and have a fresh start.

With this, what did Adam and Eve felt after “the fall”.


Grow through Trials

In a difficult situation?

Don’t just go through it, I pray that you would GROW through it.
That you would grow on your emotional intelligence, your leadership, your character, your discernment, your faith, your closeness to God, and so on. You’re gonna learn a lot here. Don’t ever waste this, this is an opportunity.

As John Maxwell says: “Experience isn’t the best teacher, evaluated experience is.”

And the bible tells:
Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.
James 1:2‭-‬4 NLT


An Adventure To Live


It’s the first time I jumped a 12 meters high cliff.
Excited by the thrill and the experience awaits.
A friend takes the frontlines and jumped!
Now it’s my turn, there’s no turning back.
I’ll do it in 3-2-1. Jump!

“After the first jump you have to do it again, partly because you can’t believe you did it and partly because the fear has given way to the thrill of such FREEDOM.

I want to live my whole life like that. I want to love with much more abandon and stop waiting for others to love me first. I want to hurl myself into a creative work worthy of God. I want to charge fields at Banockburn, follow Peter as he followed Christ out onto the sea, pray from my heart’s true desire.

Life is not a problem to be solved; it is an adventure to be lived. That’s the nature of it and has been since the beginning when God set the dangerous stage for this high-stakes drama and called the whole wild enterprise good. He rigged the world in such a way that it only works when we embrace risk as the theme of our lives, which is to say, only when we live by faith. A man just won’t be happy until he’s got adventure in his work, in his love and in his spiritual life.”

– John Eldredge