Love

Being in-love is pleasurable. The happiness, the joy, the excitement, and the anticipation. You know it, but it can’t be explained in words. You are willing to giv\

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Because love involve risks. I even believe that it is a pre-requisite of it.

As Charlie Day says:

“You cannot succeed without the risk of failure. You cannot have voice without the risk of criticism, and you cannot love without the risk of loss. You must go out and you must take this risks.”

And yes, there will be risks: of loss, of pain and brokenness. Will you still be willing to take on those?

I love how C.S. Lewis puts it:

“Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal.”

True love involves real choice. And know this, that even the creator of all, is willing to take on the risks for true love.

He took the risk of love when He gave Adam the free will. And He still gave it anyway until today, the risk of being rejected by us every single day.

But God loved anyway.

“Because love is beautiful, and it is worth taking the risk.”

Advertisements
choosing the high road

Choosing The High Road

I believe that in life, God is control on what we go through, but we have this freedom to choose how we goes through it. According to John Maxwell, there are three roads to travel: The low road, where we treat others worse than they treat us; the middle road, where we treat others the same as they treat us; and the high road, where we treat others better than they treat us.

Let me take a bible verse for this thought. It is said in Philippians 4:8 (MSG): Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious – the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.

The best is the high road, the worst is the low road. Filling your mind of the beautiful – the high road, not the ugly – the low road. Meditating on the things to praise – the high road, not things to curse – the low road.

This is why I started this blog site. To share the best, the beautiful and the things to praise to those people who wants to travel the high road with me.

Let me know your thoughts on this.

What its like to be trully living

Desires

I have my desires in life.

I believe that we all have.

Even when we were still a child, and growing up, we desires something; it may be as small as a toy or big as a profession. Though it changes in time, while we open our minds to greater wisdom and purposes in life, we have it.

And its a good thing that we have those. That means that we are still pursuing, asking and living for something.

But I’ve learned that not all desires are good, some may place you in your real purpose here, but some may not be healthy or may even destroy you.

Let me share to you some guidelines to ponder on your desires.

     1. Ask

You got to ask of it.

Ask of it on yourself… If you have your desires but you don’t ask yourself to work hard for it, to have that motivation to go for it, with what you have, with the potential that was given you, it may come to waste. It may only be a dream for you, and may not come to fruition.

Ask of it on God… It is said in the book of James:

“You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God.”

James 4:2

     2. Check your motives

Why you do something in your life has a great impact on how you do it and what do you do about it. You got to know the root of your motives. What was the heart behind it. And if you go deeper on your motives, you’ll have wider understanding on yourself and it may direct you to your real purpose.

“When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.”

James 4:2

Once you have realized that your motives are right, you got to work on it. You got to:

   3. Get all the knowledge as you can

It will requires you to take action for you to go to a place you want to go. And you must realize that everything starts with the mind, with the belief that you have. So you need to get all the knowledge as possible that you can to go to that place where you wanted to go. It will open you up to greater opportunities and you’ll be amazed how powerful our mind is.

Jim Kwik says: “If knowledge is power, then learning is a super power.”

What a great mindset that is!

“Desires without knowledge is not good- how much more will hasty feet miss the way!”

Proverbs 19:2

What its like to be trully living

Trust the Creator

I went to a place in Bali, Indonesia where wood carving is made. There, a guy explained to me the process it undergoes from a small trunk of the tree into an art.

He explained that it takes about a month for this one to be done. Patiently and diligently working on it one day at a time.

He then goes and said: “you should have your heart on it to be able to do it beautifully, even if it takes you a very long time but your heart is not on it you can only do an average one.

There I realized this: if you want a change in your life, if you want your life to get better, to be better, you have to undergo a process. And it may not be overnight. It requires time, patience and diligence.

You should trust the process, trust God, your creator, your sculptor. He is patiently and diligently working on you. And it will be worthwhile.

And one more, it takes heart right? Know this, that God has His heart on you.

He so loved you that He gave His only Son to die on the cross for you.

To die on the cross for you. How can you not trust your future to the God who is willing to gave his only Son for you?

What its like to be trully living

Weakness

We fall short, not only once, or twice, with determination not to fall again unto your weaknesses. And we fall again. Then we develop the composure to stand again. And then, again, we fall.

Sometimes thinking that we are back… to… square one.

But there is something that will hit you along the way. That weakness, that thing you are fighting along, for a long time already fist to fist, can only be fought when you acknowledged that you are powerless above it. And discover a word so precious that we ought to have through realization that we are in need of it.

That is “grace”.

No, you are not back to square one, you are on your way on acknowledging that you are in need of grace more than your own strength. And the moment you rely on that grace, and let God move and change you from the inside, there you can see the change in your life on the outside.

But change is not easy, the process can’t be understate, but it will be worth it.

The bible says in 2 Corinthians 12:9 :

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

When you found it, stay there, under the grace of God. And let us let the power of Christ rest upon us.

 

Repentance, not proper behavior or even holiness, is the doorway to grace. And the opposite of sin is grace, not virtue.

–  Philip Yancey

 

growth

Perfection

Most of us, if not, all, seeks perfection in life. We seek perfection in our day, in our career, relationships; we hated conflicts, we hated imperfections, we hated facing hard times. We hated the process of progress, this things that are necessary in life. And as you grow older, as you grow more successful, as you take more responsibilities, you can see that its not easy and maybe it will never be.

Well, who says life will be easy? There are trials, pruning and character development necessary to progress.

Here I am now in my age, I’m beginning to see how life can’t be taken lightly. How every decisions you take has its significance, tolls and repercussions. There will be things you can’t get back again, choices you can’t take again and moments you can only look back.

But the good thing is this: As long as we are growing, as long as we are continually learning and committed to be better we know that we will progress.

I agree on how John C. Maxwell puts it, he says: “The only thing that determines that it’s going to be better is that if we are growing.”

And for me, progress or growth should be our goal rather than perfection.

growth

Gratitude and Appreciation

The value of something depends on the one looking at it.

To prove my case lets say two people are looking at one beautiful scenery. The one looks at it finding what the scenery lacks, the other one appreciates the beauty of it. They saw the same thing but reacted differently.

The saying must be true, it says: What you appreciate, appreciates; what you don’t, depreciates.

So let’s look at things with the lens of gratefulness.

“give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”

1 Thessalonians 5:18 ESV

growth

3 Principles to Abundance

Living in abundance takes you to another place; wherein you will be able to do things other people can’t, whether it is buying things you desire, going to places you’ve dream of, experiences and the joy that comes from giving.

But, not all of us at this moment has enough resources for that. That means there are things to be done.

During this season of my life, 3 years after graduating in college and right now establishing my career, it becomes very interesting to me to find out what successful people do that places them where they are today. I’ve seek opinions from successful people, read a lot of books on the principles successful people live-by, spending a lot of time watching presentations, and listening podcasts to find out what does it take to live in abundance.

But before we go on, I also want to clear out that just like how broad or differently we can define success, in the same way we can differently define what abundance is depending on our priorities in our lives.

Sharing you the 3 principles I’ve learned and personally learning to live-by to experience abundance.

  1. Stewardship

Stewardship is a very interesting word, I have learned that we are all steward of everything that we have. This comes to me in two difference forms: resources and gifting.

  • Resources

We are raised in different family backgrounds. Some are born in a rich family some are not. But it is not how we are born, it is how we would be faithful in what we are given.

I know people who are earning a lot more than minimum wage even earning about 40k to 50k a month but surprisingly doesn’t have any savings or even emergency fund even a property. I also know people who are only earning minimum wage or a little higher that have their savings, investment (stock market or mutual funds) and even life insurance.

This is where good and bad stewardship shows. Being able to budget, allot resources to your priorities is a sign of good stewardship. Not knowing what’s important and impulse buying on unnecessary items is bad stewardship.

We can learn this lesson from the book of Matthew.

His master said to him, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant. You have been faithful over a little; I will set you over much. Enter into the joy of your master.’   – Matthew 25:21

For to everyone who has will more be given, and he will have an abundance. But from the one who has not, even what he has will be taken away.                          – Matthew 25:29

  • Gifting

What’s amazing in life is that we are all different. We have different personalities, values, talents, gifting, and in this world of about 7.6 billion people living today, you can’t meet someone who does have the very exact reasoning as you. How amazing is that right?

Having said that, if we have different talents, gifting and skills, surely we can be the best version of us. We don’t have to be the best copy of those that we admired, because we ourselves has our own calling. And we should be faithful with that. Having that skillsets, and gifts that your friend, siblings or workmates doesn’t have, you should be able to discover, develop and use it to live by it.

Be a good steward of what you have and surely the passion and drive will come through. And while you are being faithful with that gift, work with excellence, work with all your heart. Work with the desire to be the best in what you do and be the hardest working person on the room.

“A slack hand causes poverty, but the hand of the diligent makes rich.”      – Proverbs 10:4

2. Integrity

Integrity is the state of being whole and undivided says Merriam-Webster dictionary. I find this word very important in my life. It would be very hard for me to follow superiors without the strong sense of integrity in them.

And I strongly believe that this what makes successful people successful. Without this, even having great wealth, it’s very hard for me to consider someone successful. Because I know that there will be no joy nor peace of mind apart from integrity.

And this subject is a broad one. As a Christian I even consider giving back to God his portion of what He entrusted me is part of being a person of integrity. In the book of Malachi God said that we are robbing Him if we are not faithfully giving our tithes and offerings. Even in Mark 12:17, Jesus said: “Give back to Caesar what is Caesar’s and to God what is God’s.”

While we work excellently, with integrity, soon enough we will experience life in abundance with joy and peace of mind.

Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but whoever takes crooked paths will be found out.          – Proverbs 10:9

          3. Giving

Lastly but surely not the least is giving. This is a very shocking discovery for me. After hearing a lot of successful people share their secrets to success, this is what most, if not, all of them have in common, they give. They personally believe that giving is a big part of the reason they are blessed with success. There is a saying that the more you give, the more you receive. It was illogical for me at first, but I discovered that this is truly how it goes.

This is a principle, and if you want to live abundantly, you should start giving today, you’ll be amazed on how you’ll be blessed. Even not financially, maybe relationally, emotionally, or the joy that comes from it.

As Denzel Washington says: “The most selfish thing you can do in this world is help someone else, why is it selfish? Because the gratification, the goodness that comes from you, the good feeling, the good feeling that I get, from helping others. Nothing is better that that. Not jewelry, not big house I have, not the cars. But the joy, that’s where the joy is, in helping others, that where the success is.

One person gives freely, yet gains even more; another withholds unduly, but comes to poverty. A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed.          – Proverbs 11:24 – 25

give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.          – Luke 6:38

 

That’s it! Live by this three principles: S I G (Stewardship, Integrity and Giving) and watch how your life will change. Where joy and peace is present.